I woke up this morning thinking about the post I made yesterday
about the reason why Mark won’t be coming to see his grandchild and
realized that I need to make an addendum.
Although I remain appalled
at his logic, at least he realizes his limitations and is willing to
separate himself to minimize the conflict. His natural tendency is
to sever all ties to those that he has conflict with, but he is
trying to keep a line of communication open. He has his issues, but
he’s not an ogre. His over-reaction, leading to our divorce, was
because he was distraught thinking that I wanted to
“desert” him and stay with my oldest throughout an entire
pregnancy despite my telling him over and over that I was talking
about the last month and a little after the birth (like I’ve done
now).
However, by the time he calmed down enough to realize what I
was wanting and willing to talk things through, he had already
packed and shipped out all of my stuff, telling me he’d never take
me back, so “talking things through” didn’t go well.
Obviously, I STILL have issues about it all (and plenty besides
this). He’s not the only one with limitations here, so don’t judge
him too harshly. 